By now you should be half way through this 31-Day De-Cluttering Challenge. How is it going? Are you able to each day gather the focused item and purge or are you finding reasons to hold onto them?
Now please understand that just because I am suggesting an item each day for purging does not mean you need to purge if you really need to hold onto it. For example, if you curl your hair every day, once a week or even once in a while, then purging the curlers is not necessary. But if you have these curlers and haven’t used them in years and probably would not use them ever again, then holding onto to them for the sack of holding onto them or for the memory of what they represent is what I am talking about.
Letting go of things can be very hard for individuals. There are a number of reasons why.
- You are lonely and adding stuff to your life and your environment fills a void.
- You hold onto items from family members because they are no longer here and it’s a way for you to remember them.
- Getting rid of an item that someone you love gave you would be dis-respectful … even if you don’t use the item.
- You grew up in a family that struggled financially so now when you have “stuff” you have to hold onto it … just in case.
- You have intentions and wishes to de-clutter but you just don’t know where to begin. You get overwhelmed and can’t even get the motivation to start.
- Stuff sometimes gives you your identity. So if you let go of stuff you are loosing parts of your identity.
- You feel that you cannot purge items unless you find the perfect home for it. The unfortunate part is you never seem to find the right home.
The list could go on and the reasons could get bigger. But what I try to teach my clients is this:
“Stop loving your stuff and focus your love on the things
that love you back!”
Love people, love your pets, love God, love your friends, and love your family more than you love your stuff.
As you begin your “Do It Yourself” (DIY) de-cluttering project and you seem to be stuck on an items that you haven’t used, don’t really need but can’t let go, ask yourself these questions;
- Do you love this item(s)?
- Will this items(s) advance you to your goals?
- In the future, if you need this item(s), will it be easy to get?
- Does this item(s) have control over you?
- What’s the worst thing that will happen if you get rid of this item?
If you have answered no to questions 1 & 2 and yes to questions 3 & 4, consider purging your item(s).
If doing a DIY project is too overwhelming, that’s ok. Don’t take on shame or condemnation. Don’t make yourself feel bad. That’s unproductive. It’s common to feel overwhelmed. You are not alone. Projects can be overwhelming and will cause us to get paralyzed. It’s that time to perhaps consider calling a Professional Organizer. We can guide you, direct you and help you get to your desired goal. Working along side one also helps to transfer knowledge to you and this will help you begin the path of organization! Reach out. Give a call. I’d love to be there for you!
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