Did you ever have a time in your life when someone was so confident in what they were saying but something inside of you was unsettled and not believing it? You can’t necessarily put your finger on it, but you know something is wrong. But their confidence is so strong that it makes you feel like you are crazy and something is wrong with you.
Welcome friends to my Podcast and video. Regina Sanchez here your spiritual life and health coach. I’m glad you are here so let’s get started.
“I’d Prefer to Read Your Message”
I can so relate to this because many years ago, when my then husband was diagnosed as a narcissist, I didn’t know what that really meant. I thought, “Well yes he is very selfish” and I left it at that.
It wasn’t until years later that I came upon the teachings of Shaneen Megji and Dr. Ramani who have taught me so much on what it means to have a relationship with someone who is a narcissist. It all made sense why life was so hard, why I stayed so long and what I had to undue in my emotional life.
What is One of the Characteristics of a Narcissist?
One of the characteristics of a narcissist is their confidence. Ironically, deep inside they are not confident at all and it’s all a façade. But regardless, they possess such confidence that it makes you question your discernment.
Now having confidence is not a bad thing but when someone is manipulating you and so confident in that manipulation, it brings such confusion, pain and emotional struggles.
There would be times that I believed my ex was lying to me. I couldn’t necessarily prove it, but my gut was saying he was. But he was so confident in his stand that it brought total confusion to the situation. It also caused me to doubt my discernment and not listen to my gut any longer.
We cannot necessarily mistake confidence for truth!
Our Discernment is VERY Important!
It’s important that we all develop our spiritual discernment so that we can know when we are being deceived. We also cannot mistake someone’s confidence as necessarily truth especially if they are manipulating you.
How is your discernment? Do you pay attention to your “gut” and what it might be telling you? This is so important. We need to trust what we are discerning even if the situation shows otherwise because the reality is the truth will always get exposed.
In time, all the issues my ex was lying to me about was brought to the light and I had my answers. What it taught me was to trust my discernment. I may have to put what I am discerning on a back burner until God sheds His light on the issue and it gets exposed, but at least I know that I do discern correctly.
How do you strengthen or develop your discernment? One of the ways is knowing truth and for me that truth comes from the Word of God. We do live in a world of “relativity.” “What may be truth for you is not necessarily truth for me.” I remember when this concept was infiltrating our society back 35 years ago. I believe it’s harmed our society. What do you think?
To base something up against something else, there needs to be truth. And as I said, I base things on God’s truth. If you don’t have “truth” to hold things up against, you will only have confusion.
Now not all things can be answered by holding it up against God’s truth.
For example, I was discerning that my ex was cheating on me. I know what God says about infidelity but that didn’t necessarily answer my discernment. But because I chose my life to be following God’s righteousness, and invited the Holy Spirit into my life/heart, I knew that I could get the answers to these issues in my life. In time the truth was exposed, and I no longer felt like I was crazy.
Practice using your discernment. Ask the Father to strengthen that inside you. Choose to read His Word and invite Him in your life.
And most importantly, NEVER allow someone to make you feel like you are crazy. Sadly, my ex was clever at doing this by bringing me to the point of despair. Then calmly look at me and call me crazy. He did this over and over to me and it was at the point I felt crazy … until one day.
We were having an argue and he was attempting to bring me to that breaking point, but I wasn’t falling for it any longer. He then proceeded to call me crazy. That was it. I heard that for the last time. The Holy Spirit rose in me, and I literally got in his face. Now mind you he was 6 feet and I was like 5.5. He clearly was bigger than me and could have taken me down. But nope the Lord was not going to allow it.
What I Used to Come Against Verbal Abuse
I got in his face and said these words, “No weapon formed against me will prosper. Every tongue that rises up against me My God will condemn. And I ask that in the Name of Jesus every curse you are speaking out against me that my God will turn it around and bless you!!”
It literally caused him to step back preventing himself from falling. He probably felt I was going to curse him back. But that’s not my God. I used God’s Word as a weapon and God backed me up. Because you see I was so used to being called names that there was like this neon sign on me that said, “Oh you can be nasty to Regina and call her names … like stupid, crazy, judgmental and on and on.” But God had enough and so did I.
So, friends, is your discernment at a place where you can trust it. Do you have the discernment to hear God’s voice like those who God spoke to on 911 telling them to not go to work that day at the World Trade Center or to go late? Is your discerner sharpened enough to be able to speak with authority and truth.
If not, consider sharpening your “discerner.” It is a much-needed tool in our lives especially for the time we live in.
Love you guys.
Be blessed and encouraged and know that you are loved.
Your Spiritual Life & Health Coach … believing in you!
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