Unhealed trauma will perpetuate negative issues in your life that could have your life spiraling out of control. What do you do to heal the pain your trauma has caused you? I had two things that were the negative factors in my life for my unhealed trauma. How life is so much better when you give it to the great Healer. Take a listen to this Podcast to help you let go of what has you continuing to be perhaps retraumatized.
Hello friends. Welcome to my Podcast Giving You a Fresh Start After Trauma. I am blessed you are here and want to dive right into my message.
“I’d Prefer to Read Your Message!”
For many who have experienced trauma of any sort that is unhealed, we tend to find ways to have a sense of sanity or something to hold onto so that we don’t spin out of control. Our trauma could have been:
- abuse (all or one)
- rejection
- neglect
- traumatic medical issue
- violence
- war
- job loss
- child loss
- divorce and the list could go on.
Some of the ways we might navigate our emotions to have a sense of relief could be:
- substance abuse
- overeating
- being overly sexual (i.e. having multiple partners)
- spending money you don’t have
- having unhealthy relationships and this list could go on
What did I take on as my sustenance?
For me I took on two things: unhealthy relationships and the need to talk. When my marriage was really, really bad and something happened, I had to pick up the phone and talk to someone. I needed someone to take me off the ledge because I felt I was at times going to lose my mind. Narcissists are great at doing that. I was afraid if I didn’t somehow talk to someone, I emotionally wasn’t going to make it, and I didn’t want to have a breakdown in front of my children.
Fortunately, God healed all those wounds, and I now can take an issue to the Lord when I need to talk or work through it. Or even talk with a close friend. But there just isn’t that urgency to HAVE to talk to a human. Of course, the dysfunctional relationships have been removed from my life. But that doesn’t mean I don’t have issues come up. I just handle them differently in a much healthier way.
Another way to put a band-aid on the pain!
Another way some people use to band-aid their wounds is with their health. On some level, their health issues are a way to get attention they so long for.
If you ask these individuals if they want to be healed, they will of course say yes. But deeply rooted in them they want to hold onto illnesses because it somehow fills what is missing in their life.
Are you one to want to hold onto your illnesses or dis-eases? Take a minute and think about it.
Let me share this story with you that might shed some light as you ponder this question.
“Now there was a man who had been disabled for thirty-eight years lying among the multitude of the sick. When Jesus saw him lying there, he knew that the man had been crippled for a long time. So Jesus said to him, “Do you truly long to be healed?” John 5:5-6
Boy when I first read that, I thought what a question to ask this crippled man. Of course, he wanted to be healed. But I’ve learned over the years to never question God’s Word because He is never wrong.
As you continue to read you see the man had an excuse.
“The sick man answered him, ‘Sir, there’s no way I can get healed, for I have no one who will lower me into the water when the angel comes. As soon as I try to crawl to the edge of the pool, someone else jumps in ahead of me.” John 5:7
I have a note I wrote in my Bible that says, “you have to ask why he didn’t lay right at the edge of the pool so when the angel came, he could fall right in?” Jesus had the wisdom that knew the man had an excuse.
Could that be you as well. Are you sick with an illness or a dis-ease but really don’t want to be healed deep down inside? You might think that’s a crazy statement but sometimes our sicknesses serve a purpose in our life. It could be our identity, give us the love and attention we crave, or even give us something to do with our life … you know go from Doctor to Doctor.
I knew a woman who on some level really liked her dis-eases. She was abused as a child and at one point in her life she became very sick. I believe she obtained the much needed and desired attention from her parents that she craved and needed with her illness. This wired her brain to believe, “If I get sick, I’ll get attention” or so she thought. As life went on, those around her tired of all her illnesses and medical problems so she wasn’t getting the attention she was hoping for. It was a struggle and a sad one at that.
Is sickness or dis-ease something in your life that you use for a purpose?
Does it give you the attention that you naturally don’t receive? If that’s you, I’m sorry and I just want to let you know there is a better way to receive love and attention. There is a better identity to have than your sickness or dis-ease.
KNOW THAT YOU ARE A BELOVED CHILD OF GOD!
If you never had that ‘born again” experience, know that He still knows you. He put you in your mother’s womb. He can count the hairs on your head. But He longs to have a relationship with you. That’s why He sent Christ to the earth.
There is a better identity to have!
Wouldn’t it be better to have as your identity that you are a child of a King? His banner over you is love. When we transition our beliefs to what the Father in Heaven says, everything changes. Freedom wraps itself around you. What other people think of you is irrelevant. Just knowing you are loved by the most perfect Father is more than enough.
Friends, if you are holding onto things that are not healthy because you have a false believe that it’s protecting or helping you, let it go. Always go to truth, not facts but truth.
Helping you get free is a strong passion inside of me. Once you receive the beauty of freedom, you want to help others get there as well. That’s my heart for you.
Reach out. I’m just a phone call away.
Your Spiritual Life & Health Coach … believing in you!
Please share this message with someone you know who needs to be encouraged!
Note: The purpose of this teaching is to strictly convey information or real-life experiences. It is not to be interpreted as medical advice nor is it intended to diagnose, treat or cure a medical or emotional condition. Do not take it as a substitute for instructions by your physician or other healthcare professional. These teachings are intended to support health and healing and not necessarily replace the medical advice you’ve been given. That would be solely your discretion. And remember, always ask the Holy Spirit what you should do.