Have you been rejected, discarded or canceled out of people’s life and you don’t know why? Sadly, it’s happening all around us. Today I’m going to start a series of teachings regarding this very specific issue and how you can mend your heart and move forward.
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Welcome friends to my Podcast Giving You a Fresh Start After Trauma. I am about to start a series on dealing with a culture that is blossoming all around us and it’s painful. So let jump right in because I do have some answers for you.
We live in a world of cancel culture. Do you know what that means?
Cancel Culture is simply, “a byproduct of a growing cultural norm that says if someone doesn’t think like you do, you should simply and permanently untether from them.” I thought this statement was well said by Erin Davis.
We live with individuals and even a generation that sadly many of us have raised that feel ok with walking away from people … especially their parents. Now I’m not talking about walking away from someone that was abusive to you. That’s a whole different story. I’m talking about people who walk away from you because they don’t like what you think or how you think. Cancel culture is growing exponentially as well as the growth of narcissism. Do they walk hand in hand?
I have so many people in my social circle who have children they haven’t spoken to in years and not by a choice of their own. A doctor friend of mine has not spoken to her son or grandchildren in a few years and to this date doesn’t understand why. She’s given a blanket apology because she doesn’t have any specifics for being “discarded,” but it falls on deaf ears.
Such a sad state we live in!
Friends walk away from friends for reasons that don’t make sense. Family members cancel out other family members because they don’t think the same way. What a sad state we live in.
Do you fall into this category? Are there people in your life that have canceled, rejected or discarded you? Do they make you feel you are “less than,” unlovable, or not nice to be around? Then read this statement below. It’s critical to the series of teachings I will be doing on living in the world of cancel culture.
We are to get our identity from God and who He says we are. When people reject us and we keep trying to “fix it,” we are essentially elevating them to an importance they don’t deserve.
I wish I remember who made this statement to give them the credit for it, but I felt it is worth sharing to give you something to ponder in your life if you are the result of being discarded or canceled.
As believers and followers in Christ we are told to live “Christ like” and unfortunately that means being canceled. God knows Christ faced the ultimate of rejection.
Those I know who have tried to reconcile back to those who are discarding them are met with:
- Deafening silence
- Mean and hurtful statements
- False accusations
- Passive aggressive avoidance
- Gaslighting
- Using others as flying monkeys
It is then that we need to give that abuse to the Lord for healing because the one thing we don’t want to do is allow bitterness to grow in our hearts. When our heart aches it’s so easy for bitterness to take root.
Know that even though this cancel culture may continue to pierce your heart you can set a boundary. Even though they may reject or discard you, Christ has not. And what He thinks of you and the love He has for you outweighs the pain these people purposefully inflict in your heart.
I want to keep this message short as I have much to write on this topic so I’m going to redirect you back to this statement and have you ponder it:
We are to get our identity from God and who He says we are. When people reject us and we keep trying to “fix it,” we are essentially elevating them to an importance they don’t deserve.
Don’t elevate anyone to a place they don’t deserve. You deserve better. If you don’t know who you are to the Father of all Fathers, then stay tuned for my next teaching as we dive deeper into this abusive culture that’s all around us.
Blessings and love.
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