What TO Say When You Talk to Yourself?

I contemplated what I was going to call this Blog/Email post …

What Do You Say When You Talk to Yourself?

Or

What Lies Do You Believe?

I then decided to turn it all around and title it:

What to Say When You Talk to Yourself?

I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “you will become what you think about most.”  That is such an obvious statement it’s hard to imagine why we don’t give this topic more attention.  I get it.  I’ve been there and at times I can run back to not saying good things about myself.  You know things like:

“Ugh I’ll never get this.”

“Why am I so stupid?”

“I must be blind to not have seen this.”

“Here I go again making the same mistake.”

Now don’t get me wrong if we are repeating the same mistake over and over, we truly need to look at that but to keep verbalizing it in frustration and then not making changes is not healthy nor the way to treat or talk to yourself.

So, let’s get back to that statement “you will become what you think about most.”  Know that your success or failure in anything large or small will depend on your programming.  How have you been programmed?  What have others said about you and in turn what are you now saying about yourself?

For me stupid was a word used most by my dad.  So that was the first thought, first belief, first statement that would run through my mind when I wanted to try something new … stupid.  It would either prevent me from trying or I might try but the minute I hit a roadblock I threw my hands in the air and gave up only to confirm this programmed word in my conscious and subconscious mind.

Being successful in what we venture out to accomplish is not about luck or necessarily about desire.  It doesn’t make a difference if we believe in what we want to do or not do.  It boils down to the programming in our mind.  The brain believes what you tell it the most.  It cannot discriminate between a negative statement or a positive one.  What you tell your mind is what it will create.  It has no choice.

I love this statement from Shad Helmstetter:

Programming creates belief …

Beliefs create attitudes …

Attitudes create feelings …

Feelings determine actions …

Actions create results …

If you want to manage your successes better, you may have to deprogram the lies you’ve believed and reprogram the truth.  How does one get the truth about who they are?  For me it’s through the one who created me … Father God.  He formed me and knit me together in my mother’s womb and knew about me before He placed me there.  Believing what He says about me is the programming I want to hold onto.

So, if you have been believing lies about yourself whether spoken to you or by you, perhaps it’s time to do a computer dump of your mind and start over.  Clean that hard drive of your mind and then fill it with truth and love.  Then watch your life take on a different track.  Watch how successes begin to follow all that you put your hands to.

How about if you were to say these things about yourself?

  • The Father has a fierce love for me.
  • He will never leave me or forsake me.
  • I am beautifully made.
  • He sees my potential and will help me reach it.
  • The Father makes no mistakes in creating His children and He makes no one stupid. Hence, I am smart and full of wisdom.
  • If I make a mistake, it’s because I haven’t fully learned what I need to learn about that situation just yet.
  • Bottom line I have the Creator of the Universe by my side who wants me to succeed in all I set out to do.

Sometimes understanding what those lies we believe are can be hard to determine and get clarity on.  Working with someone who can help you get laser focused on that lie and give you the tools to deprogram it, might be the help you need.  No shame in that.  We all at certain times in our life, need someone to walk alongside us to help bring us out from under.  I’d be honored to do that.

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