Do you ever get frustrated with yourself because you can’t seem to do the things in your life that are for your benefit. You know it will make your life better or your health better but you just get paralyzed to start or once you start you don’t have the fortitude for you to keep going. Then perhaps this message is for you.
Welcome friends to my Podcast Giving You a Fresh Start After Trauma. I have a special message for you today that really opened my eyes when I got this revelation. I hope it will help you as well. Let’s get started.
“I’d Prefer to Read Your Message!”
Do you know that our homes are designed for many things. A place to live, rest our heads, be protected, grow families and much more. But what if I told you that it is also a place …
“where you learn to fly!”
This statement is on my March Calendar picture. It fit my message!
It’s a place that our parents are to help us uncover why God created us and what our purpose is in this world. They are to help us then learn to “fly” and go off in that calling.
Sadly, there are many people who don’t have a home where they can learn to fly because they are using all their energy to survive. It was hard for me to be creative because my body was full trauma and just trying to get by each day. Thriving was not something I was positioned in. I was surviving. It wasn’t in survival mode daily but enough times in my childhood to prevent me from “flying” into what I was called to do.
When I have the opportunity to minister to a young woman to help her get beyond her trauma, I always tell her to get healed before she gets married and starts a family. I wish I had someone guide me to do that. Working through your trauma while trying to raise a family is difficult for sure. Plus, you make many unintentional mistakes.
One of the things that I uncovered in my healing was how I went against myself!
If I were in a conference and asked this question, would I have raised my hand?
Who in this room has a past you are not proud of?
Yes, I know I would be one that would raise my hand and I’m sure there would be many others.
Being raised in a family where love was never expressed left you feeling empty. Love is one of the most important survival needs. Now of course, my parents fed me and clothed me and gave me a roof over my head. But having the sense that they loved me was not ever expressed. I know now that they did and they did the best they knew how but because I never felt loved, I needed to fill that empty void and that I tried to do.
Because of that …
I went against myself!
When I heard those words years ago, I was paralyzed. I went against myself. It was like a light bulb went off in my head that gave me the answer to things that I was frustrated with. I had participated in things that were not what my heart really believed. It was not how I was raised and not something I was proud of. Seeking healing and forgiveness over this, was a first step to my freedom. But that did not bring me to the fullness of that freedom. Because what I didn’t realized was that my past prompted me on a path of continuing to “go against myself.”
Now I do not engage in “sinful” or “harmful” practices necessarily. But I also don’t necessarily do the simple things in my life that are for my betterment. Things like exercise or being intentional about getting those extra pounds off or other “self-care” needs.
I set myself on a path “of going against myself.”
How about you?
Can you say on some level you keep going against yourself? You do things you know you shouldn’t do or that are not in your best interest (emotionally, physically, mentally or health wise) but you seem to be robotic in doing them. Almost like something else is controlling you.
Perhaps you set yourself on that path of “going against yourself” and it has become such a habit you don’t know how to get off the merry-go-round.
I had set myself on a trajectory of “going against myself” and it wasn’t even conscious most times.
So how do you change that? Well, these were the things I did:
- Looked over my life and determined what things I kept doing that are not in my best interest. Things I know better not to be doing.
- Asked the Lord to forgive me for not being a better steward of my body or my life.
- Forgave myself.
- Positioned myself to receive the ultimate of love and that is from my Heavenly Father. His love is perfect. I do not look to an earthly person but the person who created me.
- Asked the Lord to heal that painful time of my life that started me on this path.Sometimes we don’t know when or why it started and that is not necessary for healing.
- Moved in the opposite direction of what I was doing that was “against myself” and was intentional about making those changes.
Am I fully there yet? Absolutely not. It’s a journey and at times it’s painful. But I have put my full trust in my Father and believe that He will never leave me nor forsake me and that I will have victory in my life.
Take some time to see if you are on that same path. It will be worth the investment of your time to uncover anything that is “against yourself.”
Your Spiritual Life & Health Coach … believing in you!
Please share this message with someone you know who needs to be encouraged!