As individuals we tend to focus only on what we feed our bodies with to the point of obsessing. But do we ever take the time to focus on what we fill our hearts or our spirits with. If you want to renew your mind, then paying attention to this area is of critical mass.
Welcome friends to my Podcast Giving You a Fresh Start After Trauma. I have a message for you that is to help you declutter your mind and your heart. Let’s get started.
I’d Prefer to Read Your Message
Back in the mid 80’s when I was dating my ex and we would be watching TV, the minute a commercial would come on he’d get all annoyed, get up from the couch and say, ‘I’m not watching this propaganda.” I used to think, “Oh my gosh get over it. It’s just a commercial.” “Used to think” is the key word. I don’t think that way any longer. I believe he had some truth in how he felt … especially escaping from a communist country.
Now I don’t get annoyed like he did, but I will silence the commercial to not have to listen to it … especially those drug commercials.
Back in 2020 when a lot of propaganda was coming to light, I was doing some research on human trafficking and pedophilia rings. It was very disturbing. I have a very strong passion for these little children and even women who have been subjected to this. Many people put their heads in the sand when it comes to this issue. I even had a family member say, “I don’t want to hear it.” That is so sad because it is a reality and happening daily.
What’s my point in sharing this?
Well in my research back in 2020 it was stated that the CIA has control over Hollywood and they create movies to numb us to issues that are about to come to light years later. For example, I’m not a Simpson watcher and never watching that show. But I’ve seen clips of these shows from years ago depicting what is happening in the current times. It’s very disturbing. There is a level of brainwashing us and numbing us to these issues. When we watch them in our shows and they happen around us, we think it’s no big deal or we are just numb about it. Many fall into cognitive dissonance.
I don’t watch sitcoms. Frankly I don’t watch TV. I very selectively watch movies, and when I do, they must be uplifting, encouraging and one that gives hope. Why? Because there is enough violence, tragedy, fighting, drug abuse, child abuse, human trafficking, lying and pedophilia happening in the world that I don’t need to be entertained by it. For years I lived in fear so why would I want to watch a movie that taps into fearful things? (For example, a Stephen King movie would never be on my watch list.).
Prior Client
An organizing client that I worked with back in 2020 still keeps in touch with me. Not for organizing but for friendship. She and I will meet for coffee or lunch to discuss the goodness happening around us and she always refers great movies to me.
I just finished watching her latest referral called Soul on Fire! So, so good (based on a real life happening). It’s about a family whose son (John) was playing with matches and gasoline and was 100% burned over his body. The movie talks about his redemption and the work he now does to motivate and encourage people.
John’s father was so wise. He loved his family and especially his son and had no ill will against the fire his son started which burned his son and their home. When John was in college his father came to visit him. They were walking the grounds of the college and John’s father said this …
“You can’t always choose the path you walk but you can choose the way you walk it. So, when things aren’t going your way, if you focus exactly on loving the life you are living now … not the life you think you could have had or should have had … that’s the whole deal right there.”
John’s father didn’t realize how much he needed to hear that message. That’s just the way wise parents are, and a wise child will take heed to it.
What’s Your Journey Like Right Now?
We all have times in our life when we are on a path or journey that we just don’t like. The key is to choose the way you walk in it. Will it be full of complaining and looking at what you don’t have? Or will you take a deep breath and look at the good around you.
The other day I was working with someone who was so full of pain and rightly so. The things happening in her life are not the best. But the problem was she kept rehashing the same things over and over again. I had to shift her to another place.
Dead in her tracks I told her to be still, and I wanted her to take a shift and give me two things that were good in her life right at that moment. “There aren’t any,” she said. I responded, “Nope that’s a lie. Stop talking and give me two things that are good in your life right now.” After a few minutes she said something not even realizing it was a good thing. I said, “There you go. That’s #1 now give me a second one.” She did.
I was in no way judging her because I lived most of my life like that. When tragedy is around you, it’s really hard to find goodness. Letting go and letting God work in your heart is truly the only answer. He will give you His grace to accomplish that shift.
Just like we need to give our bodies nutrition, we must feed our spirits. If we have a diet of processed foods or fast foods, it will affect our overall health in time. The same with our spirits. If we are feeding our spirits with music that is loud, harsh and full of words that are nasty or watch movies that are full of violence or obscene content, you are not filling your spirit with healthy things.
So let me ask you.
What are you filling your mind, heart and soul with regarding movies or programs that you watch? Is the music you listen to (that’s a whole other topic) uplifting, encouraging and peaceful? And what voices do you allow to speak over you.
If friends or partners criticize you often or speak not so nice things to you, ask yourself if they are truly your friend. Or are they truly a partner in your life?
Jesus said something radical in Matthew 10:14. He told His disciples, “If anyone will not welcome you or listen to your words, leave that home or town and shake the dust off your feet.”
What dust do you need to shake off your feet? That’s not bitterness. It’s not giving up. It’s accepting reality and moving forward.
Past Emotional Pain or Trauma
When we need healing from past emotional pain or trauma, it is critical to fill ourselves with people who speak truth (in a loving way) or encourages you, loves you and comes along side you. If people don’t speak truth to you, then are they really a friend?
In summary it is important to be sure that what we are watching or listening to is not re-traumatizing us because of its violence or fear filled message. Spend some time thinking of what you fill your spirit with and perhaps do some de-cluttering.
Your Spiritual Life & Health Coach … believing in you!