One of the things that can be hard to overcome when we’ve experienced trauma is getting out of “self.” When you’ve been traumatized and no one came to your rescue, you can become so self-focused that life becomes “all about me.” I understand because I needed to learn to comfort myself and take care of myself after I experienced my trauma. No one was there to help me. I had to learn ways to cope with what I had experienced and unfortunately it caused me to make vows that I had to break.
Today, I want to help you “reframe your thinking” by walking in …
Service over Self
Of course, we need to have a sense of “self-care” in our lives but not to the point of being so self-focused that we don’t do for others.
When was the last time you did something for someone or picked up the phone and checked in on someone? How about when was the last time you went to help an elderly person? Do you have someone in your life going through a bad time right now? Have you been encouraging them and helping pull them from the pit they might be in?
If you cannot think of anything you’ve done to help someone recently, then perhaps you need to spend some time receiving healing from your trauma that has you captured and self-focused. Many people have experienced deep issues of trauma, and I don’t make light of that. But if you are an adult and still hold resentment, bitterness and anger toward those who caused your trauma, it’s time to “grow up” and I say that with much love.
Because you see your resentment, bitterness and anger is only hurting you by keeping you selfish. There is a level of joy and freedom when we do for others. God says, “give and it will be given to you.” What you sow, you will reap and those are laws that cannot be ignored.
We must receive healing from our trauma in order to enjoy life. Are you going in circles with issues that don’t seem to get resolved or come to an end? Have you been hoping, dreaming and even praying for a partner, to be married and have a family, but you are not finding the right person. Well understand, it will be hard if you are carrying bitterness and anger in your heart because as you live in that place you are building a wall around yourself and unconsciously you are not letting the healthy people in your life. You will continue to attract a person that is probably not in your best interest.
That’s why changing your thinking and mindset to:
Service over Self
… can begin to bring healing and end your cycle to receive that healing.
One of the things I’ve done was give my clients a box of handmade cards. I love making handmade cards and would box up about 6 cards for my clients to use. They were encouraged to send a card a week to someone they knew who needed some encouragement and be lifted up. My goal was to have them take the focus off themselves and think of someone else even for just a moment. It was so freeing for them.
Is there someone in your life who needs encouragement and for at least one day a week, take the focus off yourself and do something for someone else. It doesn’t have to be a major task but one as simple as sending a card or even praying for that person throughout the day. But it does need to be something that will help you take the focus off yourself.
Do you need some ideas, reach out. If you need some healing from past issues, reach out. Or if you need some love and encouragement to keep moving forward, reach out. I’m only a phone call away. You can reach me in 3 ways.
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I encourage you to take this challenge and begin to reframe your thinking from self to service. I promise you once you begin and see the positive results from that, you will not want to stop.
Your Spiritual Life & Health Coach … believing in you!